I'd highlight that your oft-repeated 'no silver bullet' applies. "starting together" is a principle which is designed in reaction to a status quo of the opposite. Just as 'agile' was a reaction to its' opposite. It doesn't mean that you should blindly apply that principle to every situation... and by advocating for it, you shouldn't feel like you need to optimise at that level of abstraction for every possible nuanced situational context. But perhaps it's worth presenting your principal with the note that collaborative critical thinking is difficult to standardise.
Now in terms of your mention that it's entirely possible people can often have diverse levels of prior-thinking on the focus of a 'starting together' initiative... just work that into the 'handshaking' at the start of the ritual. As someone who has a few areas of specialised interest, I'd hate to be unable to leverage them because of an overly strict adherence to design-by-committee. Similarly when I've seen colleagues manifest their motivations by 'charging ahead alone', it's often the case that they come back to the group thrilled about what they've discovered and just can't wait to share. It'd be tragic to lose that. Autonomy is very important.
I appreciate your post, and I have made the same kind of mistake as a manager. People's experiences drive what they do, and since we are only familiar with our own experiences sometimes their actions can seem ill-advised. Others know things that we don't.
I'd highlight that your oft-repeated 'no silver bullet' applies. "starting together" is a principle which is designed in reaction to a status quo of the opposite. Just as 'agile' was a reaction to its' opposite. It doesn't mean that you should blindly apply that principle to every situation... and by advocating for it, you shouldn't feel like you need to optimise at that level of abstraction for every possible nuanced situational context. But perhaps it's worth presenting your principal with the note that collaborative critical thinking is difficult to standardise.
Now in terms of your mention that it's entirely possible people can often have diverse levels of prior-thinking on the focus of a 'starting together' initiative... just work that into the 'handshaking' at the start of the ritual. As someone who has a few areas of specialised interest, I'd hate to be unable to leverage them because of an overly strict adherence to design-by-committee. Similarly when I've seen colleagues manifest their motivations by 'charging ahead alone', it's often the case that they come back to the group thrilled about what they've discovered and just can't wait to share. It'd be tragic to lose that. Autonomy is very important.
I appreciate your post, and I have made the same kind of mistake as a manager. People's experiences drive what they do, and since we are only familiar with our own experiences sometimes their actions can seem ill-advised. Others know things that we don't.